In my previous article, I suggested a few style tips you can follow when you enter college only to end it by saying that you can just wear whatever the hell you want because it’s going to be the only time in your life where you can dress freely and without restrictions. Our school uniform days are over and before we know it, we’ll be working for the next 30 years of our life. Obviously not all of us will embark on the corporate path, but regardless of your career and the working industry you’re in, I’m pretty damn sure that there is bound to be some sort of dress code to adhere to. Sure, it can be casual but it has to be decent and appropriate as well, no?
I’m not implementing that you can be as indecent and as inappropriate as you’d like when you start your tertiary education, but I believe that college is that one time you can truly experiment. We’re only young once and we’re only going to be at this period of age once, so why don’t we make the most out of it? Cliché, I know, but I personally am a fan of experimenting. Not so much when it comes to clothes, but I really like crazy hair colours and facial piercings. If I have the money and my mother’s permission, I’ll shave off half of my hair, dye it purple and maybe even pierce my lips, I’m not even kidding.
So why am I not doing it, you may ask? Cause of the aforementioned – the money and the mother. Dyeing your hair is not cheap and crazy colours don’t last long, sadly. It needs a lot of maintenance and touch up and all this requires a lot of that something which I am lacking of: money.
Meanwhile, the mother seems to be a barrier, too. I came back from the saloon recently after a haircut and I told her that I want to try the half-shave hairstyle next time. What ensued was a series of never-ending lecture about how I’m going to look like a gangster, people are going to judge me, etc. Um, stereotypical much?
This is why I am writing this article today. Yes, maybe people are going to judge me, maybe I’ll look crazy, maybe I won’t be taken seriously, but just let me be. I agree that you can’t walk into a job interview with rainbow-coloured hair but that’s the whole point of it. I have no job interviews to go to, no employers to answer to and no rules to abide by at this age, so give me the rainbow-coloured, half-shaved hair while I still can.
It might be a decision I’ll regret when I’m 40 and think that 21-year-old me looked horrible, but that’s my own regret to bear, and I think it’ll be irrelevant by then, no? At least I tried the crazy colours and facial piercings, and I had fun while I still thought it was fun because let’s face it, I can’t be a 40-year-old aunty with rainbow-coloured hair, can I?
My efforts and thoughts are actually not in vain because I did have pinkish red hair three years ago. I dip-dyed my hair and boy, it was fun. I loved it and was heartbroken when the colours started to fade. It wasn’t that fun for all my older relatives, though. I should’ve recorded all their disapproving looks, the ‘tsk’ sound they made and my grandmother even called me “lala mui”.
It doesn’t end there. I still get criticism for the way I dress. Among the things that I’ve learned about aunties, the most popular and common ones would be: they hate anything ripped (it just looks bad to them), and cropped tops and short shorts are downright obscene. Look, you come from a different generation and fashion has evolved with time. It’s okay if you don’t understand but the least you can do is accept it.
I may adopt a completely different mind-set and approach when I have children of my own, but I pray and hope that I don’t trash or stop my kids when that time comes. Yes, I understand that parents think very differently and I respect that because they have your best interests at heart, after all.
The thing is, what I’m interested in are merely physical aspects that can change or be fixed just as easily. It’s not like I’m saying, “Hey mom, think I’d like to try cocaine, what say you?” Rainbow-coloured hair doesn’t harm, jeopardize or kill me, or anybody, as a matter of fact. Please remember this if your child comes back with green hair, future self. Although I doubt green hair will remain a trend by 2026. Maybe moving, holographic hair will be the next façade. Come to think of it, it actually sounds pretty cool. Maybe I’ll try it, too.
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