Back in my early high school days, I remember being an avid reader of all those teenage beauty and fashion magazines. I was a devoted fan who would buy the newest issue whenever it hits the bookstore. I’d sit on the couch for hours flipping through the glossy pages that consisted of topics like, “10 Basic Styles To Try”, “Makeup Looks that Boys Hate”, “How to Make Him Fall in Love with You”, and I used to be entertained by all these. I don’t know what changed, but one day, I remember thinking, “Gosh, this is so cliché and cringe-worthy,” and I stopped patronizing those magazines altogether.
Now that I’m mature and wiser (or at least I’d like to think so), I got to thinking, why are we taught to revolve our appearance and lifestyle around guys? A particular incident proved that the media actually plays a part in shaping our thoughts and views. What happened was, a bunch of friends and I were talking about facial piercing a few years ago and we were asking one another if anyone of us would consider doing it. One friend of mine said something that inspired me to write about this. She answered, “Nah. Guys don’t like facial piercing,” and I just went, “So?”
You know what bugs me the most though? Boys who parade around telling everybody that they don’t like girls with makeup because they prefer ‘natural beauty.’ Or boyfriends telling their significant other that they look better without makeup. This is a misconception I would really like to change because what is so wrong with wanting to make ourselves look better? Is wanting to cover up a pimple or making our lips look brighter a crime?
Let’s face it, not everybody in this world is aesthetically blessed with good looks. If you can do something to make you feel better about yourself, I say, why the hell not? Some may claim that you are deceiving because you lie to others about your true image. Well, did they actually think that you were biologically born with hot red lips, perfectly drawn eyebrows and glittery blue eyelids?
Also, not to forget, learning to put on makeup requires a lot of practice and effort that boys so easily dismissed because they think that we’re literally putting on a demon mask or something. “Be confident in your own skin,” they say. To hear both sides of the story, let me just tell you that not all girls who wear makeup have insecurity issues. It may be true that you shouldn’t need to wear makeup to feel beautiful but what if we simply just want to? Some of us just wants to look hot and smashing and sexy. If makeup gives you that extra boost of feel good confidence and is able to enhance or complement your outfit, then by all means, go ahead and rock that demon mask.
Oh wait, boys like natural beauty? Then why do I hear them asking or saying, “Are you okay?” “You look really tired today”, “Are you falling sick?” on days when you choose to be bare-faced. In my honest opinion, I think that guys don’t really mean it when they say they don’t like girls with makeup. As a matter of fact, they will never truly grasp the concept of makeup. What they’re trying to project is, “I like girls with natural-looking makeup.” As long as it doesn’t look like you have more than 3 colours on your face, you’re good to go. “Conceal your eyebags and even out your skin tone but wait no, don’t make your lips look fuller or draw a black pen across your eyelids to make it look bigger. That’s not natural, that’s false advertising.”
At the end of the day, I would like to say, no offence but we don’t dress to impress you, boys. Not to break your little bubble but not everything is about you, y’know? I mean, don’t get me wrong, looking good helps in leaving a memorable and positive impression on others, but what we’re really trying to do here is make ourselves feel good. The next time you hear a guy utter something along the lines of “Dislike, girls, makeup,” go ahead and yell, “I am doing it for ME because I WANT to,” then bat your mascara lashes at him until you flutter far, far away. Or you can always force him to read this article.